4 Rituals found in Neuroscience that are Good for You

https://www.theladders.com/p/21219/neuroscience-4-rituals-happy?pl=FBP-01&cr=01&kwp_0=420067

Summary 

  • Ask “What am I grateful for?” No answers? Doesn’t matter. Just searching helps.
  • Label those negative emotions. Give it a name and your brain isn’t so bothered by it.
  • Decide. Go for “good enough” instead of “best decision ever made on Earth.”
  • Hugs, hugs, hugs. Don’t text — touch.

Discussion from Dr Gilbert:

These are powerful!  Living with a heart towards GRATITUDE is life changing – spiritually, in your physical health, and relationally.

Labeling your negative emotions helps us move on. We often forget the power of this step.

Aim for movement versus perfection changes our brains wiring.

And touch has a powerful effect from the right people.  Find safe people.  Be with and be lose to those that build you up and encourage you.

These are powerful steps in the right direction.

I would not say that happiness is the best goal.  Aiming for joy despite the circumstances and being thankful (gratitude) are powerful steps forward.  I cannot emphasize enough the power of touch.  Be close and be smart.  Be near safe people.  Find comfort in and with others. Put down the phone, tablet, computer, screen, device, earbuds, etc.  BE WITH OTHERS.  This is transforming.

Dr. Gilbert

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“If it takes a village, the contemporary village is social media and the village sex-ed instructor is porn.”

https://qz.com/1082226/dont-buy-that-the-idea-teens-are-having-less-sex-until-you-take-a-closer-look-at-the-data/

News from so many sources can be overwhelming and even misleading.  We want to believe what fits with our worldview.  The reality of teens and tweens and their sex lives is that they ACTUALLY HAVE ONE!  This ought to be a rude awakening to parents.

Young people’s definition of S-E-X is becoming more and more personal and subjective in an attempt to accommodate their personal reality while avoiding guilt and shame (with little success).  Science twists the truth.  Churches tend to avoid the truth.  Families even suppress the truth.  Our culture screams for and elevates personal happiness and expression over other’s wellbeing and over deep relationships.  Teens are sexting.  Teens are giving and receiving oral sex like it has no consequence.  Anal sex is occurring more and more frequently without consideration of the impact this has on anyone’s health (and it does).  And again, parents avoid the hard stuff and avoid asking hard questions.

The conclusion of this article is that teens are “resilient.”  Really, we are going to just shrug our shoulders at the pain and shame and hurt and fear and degradation happening right before us – even in our own homes between our children?  NO WAY!  I don’t want my child to be “resilient” for resiliency’s sake.  I want them to learn from others and avoid so many of these pitfalls that later impact their health, marriages, communication skills, boundaries, friendships, faith, and overall wellbeing.

Join me as we build a community of like-minded men and women that see a biblical sexual ethic as a critical component of raising the next generation.  Find out more soon at www.HealingLives.com

 

The Future with After-Birth Abortion as Normal

http://www.slate.com/articles/health_and_science/human_nature/2012/03/after_birth_abortion_the_pro_choice_case_for_infanticide_.html

And it continues.  Where does this lead us?  It leads us to a reality where a child can be killed if it is not the desired gender, if it does not fit into plans, or if something is deemed wrong.  What is next?  Check out these points in this article:

Assumptions:

  1. Morality is Arbitrary
  2. Personhood
  3. Burden Outweighs Value
  4. Value of Life
  5. Defects = Termination

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AACC 2017 Break Every Chain World Conference 

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I have the honor of copresenting (Hannah Parmalee will not be able to attend so it will just be me) –  September 30th, 2017 in Nashville.

Family Health, Parenting, and Millennials

610 Sex and the Millennial: Transformative Conversations that Integrate Research and Theology
    Corey Gilbert Corey Gilbert , Ph.D.
Summary
Millennials want and need to talk about sex. How they think about sex impacts them spiritually, behaviorally, relationally, emotionally, and neurologically. The decisions they make during the critical young adult years (ages 18-28) impact them for decades. Many of these decisions arise out of their family context and teaching about sexuality. Current neurological and psycho/social research brings increased understanding and clarity to the sexual behavior of millennials. Teaching millennials the research, alongside a sound theological and biblical perspective, has led to life-changing choices and spiritual growth for hundreds of young adults. Young adults have found healing, encouragement, and renewed relationship with God through this teaching style and content on sex. This workshop will share the research we conducted at three, private Christian colleges on young adult relational and spiritual development, as well as sexual experiences, habits, and education; equip participants to engage meaningfully with young adults, parents, and families around the topic of sex; and teach research relevant to this topic. This workshop will be relevant for pastoral and professional counselors, coaches, church leaders, and others working in the field of young adult and family mental health. Let’s be a wise voice in this conversation; not silent. This workshop will prepare you for these critical conversations.
Learning Objectives
Participants will:

  1. Describe the foundational principles our Christian millennials are facing regarding sexuality, their choices, and the consequences of these choices
  2. Compile strategies to better help Christian families, parents, and millennials change the tide regarding sex, marriage, parenting, and the value of family with upcoming generations
  3. Identify practical skills for connecting with young adults and parents when providing relational and spiritual guidance

https://wc.aacc.net/WC/WC/track_info.php?track_id=610&id=18 

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Welcome!  My name is Corey Gilbert.  I am a husband, father, professor, counselor, and speaker.  I have the honor of speaking on current topics at churches and leading marriage and dating seminars.  I also enjoy my classroom time teaching undergraduates at Corban University (www.corban.edu) in Salem, Oregon in courses such as Human Sexuality, Trauma Therapy, Counseling Skills, Psychology of Addiction, Abnormal Psychology, etc.  I have also spent the past 17 years in the trenches with clients in my private practice as a Licensed Professional Counselor – what an honor to has been to steward other’s stories and pain in very dark and difficult times.

I am currently developing a place for church leaders, parents, and single adults to come for Resources and Guidance on a Biblical Sexual Ethic.  I will provide services, consulting, counseling, teaching, and trainings on age appropriate approaches to leading your family with excellence in areas of sexuality, technology and teens (and children), and addressing sexual issues tactfully, practically, and proactively.

We must be intentional in addressing tough issues early with our children.  Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat, pornography, dating, marriage, sex, family roles and values are critical topics we must not leave to other to teach our children.

May we as the church lead the way in freeing ourselves and our children’s futures from the pain and despair of sexual brokenness.  We need safe people, not safe spaces.  May we create small communities of families that love well, talk openly, hurt in community, and heal as a community. God is working and active.  Join us in this mission.

My PERSONAL PURPOSE STATEMENT:

To provide church leaders, young adults, moms, and dads with practical tools, teaching, resources and guidance on matters of a biblical sexual ethic for their churches, families, and lives.

MISSION STATEMENT:

To help churches, young adults, and parents build strong families and openly address difficult topics biblically.

VISION STATEMENT:

To help churches, young adults, and parents change their futures by proactively learning about and addressing a biblical sexual ethic.

CORE VALUES:

  • Biblical Sexual Ethic
  • Family
  • Proactive Teaching

Looking forward to ways I can partner with you and your church / family,

Dr G

Teaching & Training for Church Leaders, Parents, & Singles on a Biblical Sexual Ethic