"The Healthy Marriage" & Family Life Coach
Happy Thanksgiving from the Gilbert family! Blessings to you. So much happening here. I am so excited about the coming together of my new book and workbook, membership site, online courses, counseling services, and coaching services.
The book editing is complete. It is at the typesetting stage (pending a title and securing the book cover – plus a few endorsements). We are SO CLOSE! I am so excited and truly hope it changes lives.
Along with this book and workbook I have been working on online resources that will be available soon. I have classes, trainings, and more coming soon.
Also available – counseling and coaching services that can meet your needs. I work with families, parenting issues, couples and marriage related struggles, ministry leaders that are facing burnout or need help with skills to serve more intentionally as a people helper, and specific topics such as affairs, sexual issues, abuse, and trauma.
Need a speaker for a men’s or women’s retreat? Looking for a workshop on parenting, porn, homeschooling, dating and relationships, marriage, sexuality and/or trauma – check out drcoreygilbert.com
Bless you and yours on this Thanksgiving Day!
Preorder my book for free and just pay for shipping at freebook.healinglives.com
Check out my Online Course on “Love, Sex, Dating, & Marriage” – a 7 hour course with worksheets at dating.healinglives.com
Find out more about my services at HealingLives.com
Truly enjoy this CHRISTmas season with friends and family.
I am here to serve.
Dr Gilbert (& Family, Salem, Oregon)
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Corey J. Gilbert, PhD, LPC
I am working on a few projects (more details coming soon). I wanted to find out if you might be someone interested in a FREE online intro course on
Dating, Relationships, & Marriage.
My goal is to help you and others build a SOLID Biblical Sexual Ethic as you make wise decisions, informed decisions – and help teach and lead others in doing so – those you serve, or even your own family.
Input your info below if you are interested:
You are stuck. You feel afraid. You are unsure. You need motivation. You need help with specific questions you have in life.
Your marriage is stuck. You are afraid for your son or daughter’s future. You find yourself unmotivated to do what you know you need to do. I can help!
My model of working with clients has been shaped over the past 17 years of counseling and working with couples and families and single adults facing life crisis, as well as working as a University Professor.
My goal is to be brief, and empower you in your life. We start off with more hours up front and more frequent. My goal is to get us down to 1 or 2 – 30 minute coaching sessions a month as check-in’s. I want to see our time together be short and to the point. Your success in life, love, family, work, and even growing yourself is critical to your future. Get unstuck. Reduce your fears. Become confident. Increase your motivation. Get answers to hard questions.
You will find the financial side of this is stacked up front and is quickly relieved – as opposed to months and even years of weekly 50 minute sessions.
Check out www.HealingLives.com for more information.
Groups on specific topics are coming soon.
Online courses are in the works.
I am excited about what’s to come from HealingLives, LLC.
Check out this great article on Life Coaching – What it is and how it can help.
Who is a Life Coach. Misconceptions.
How working with a Life Coach can benefit you.
What a Life Coach does and how it works.
Check out Tony Robbins’ Article here.
Check out this infograph on Life Coaching versus Therapy
How did Dr. Gilbert come to present at the AACC conference?
Dr. Gilbert had attended the AACC World Conference for years—since he was a grad student in the 90s, in fact. But he hadn’t actually presented until now. “I had wanted to do this for years, but it is amazing the power of FEAR,” he writes in his blog. But this year he had finally submitted a handful of proposals related to the conference’s annual theme, “Break Every Chain.” Not only was his proposal on “Sex and the Millennial” accepted, but it received a great deal of interest leading up to the conference and was one of the few breakout sessions labeled full on the registration page. Indeed, Dr. Gilbert ended up speaking to a packed house of about 160.
Why “Sex and the Millennial?” What’s critical about this age group and conversations about sex?
Dr. Gilbert has witnessed first-hand the attitudes Christian millennials have toward sex, both through his career as a Licensed Professional Counselor and as Associate Professor of Psychology at Corban University, where he teaches courses such as Human Sexuality, Trauma Therapy, Counseling Skills, Psychology of Addiction, and Abnormal Psychology. Although the topics he discusses with his students in these courses are often uncomfortable ones, Dr. Gilbert is adamant that being open about difficult topics, especially under the guidance of godly mentors, is crucial to young people’s development.
And indeed, “Millennials want and need to talk about sex,” Dr. Gilbert explains in a summary of his presentation. “How they think about sex impacts them spiritually, behaviorally, relationally, emotionally, and neurologically. The decisions they make during the critical young adult years (ages 18-28) impact them for decades.”
The problem lies in where millennials are receiving their information about this topic. Although each generation has struggled with harmful attitudes toward sex, millennials have access to portals of information that earlier generations did not, including the internet and social media. Too often, young people turn to sources of information that are inaccurate or even harmful (e.g. social media and friends), instead of biblically-grounded sources.
Where does “Research” enter the discussion? What kind of research did Dr. Gilbert conduct?
For more than a decade, Dr. Gilbert has been collecting data. Both in his Human Sexuality course at Corban and in an equivalent course he’s taught for another private Christian university, Dr. Gilbert has administered a survey to his students at the beginning of each semester. The survey asks students to honestly and anonymously answer questions about their attitude toward sex, where they’ve learned about sex, their comfort level talking to their parents about sex, and other related questions.
For years, the data had been piling up, unused. “Two years ago,” says Dr. Gilbert, “a colleague of mine pushed me to do something with it.” Dr. Gilbert asked one of his student assistants, Danielle Horne, to begin compiling the data from the surveys. Danielle began to analyze some of the data and ended up presenting her findings at the National Conference on Undergraduate Research in April of 2016. Her presentation was titled “Safe Sex: A Study on the Influences on Sexual Decision-Making.” She concluded that a young person’s comfort-level talking with their parents about sex had an impact on whether or not they would make safe decisions. The higher the comfort level, the more likely they would turn to their parents to talk about sex, and the less risky their behavior would be. “It is the parent’s job to create an environment in the home where their children feel comfortable talking about sex,” Danielle concluded. The idea of parental responsibility became a key point in Dr. Gilbert’s presentation.
What about “Theology”? What role did Scripture play in this discussion?
Dr. Gilbert’s discussion on parental involvement dovetailed with an analysis of Proverbs 6:20-23:
My son, obey your father’s commands,
and don’t neglect your mother’s instruction.
Keep their words always in your heart.
Tie them around your neck.
When you walk, their counsel will lead you.
When you sleep, they will protect you.
When you wake up, they will advise you.
For their command is a lamp and their instruction a light;
their corrective discipline is the way to life.
He pointed out that this passage, in the context of warning young people away from sexual immorality, underlines the importance of parents in a young person’s decisions about sex—similar to Danielle’s conclusions. He points out that parents’ counsel, commands, instruction, and discipline come together to protect their children from unhealthy decisions regarding sex.
So… What’s the takeaway?
Both research and Scripture point to the importance of wise adults speaking into young people’s lives. Ultimately, Dr. Gilbert points out that parents, church leaders, and other Christian adults can’t afford to be silent on the topic of sexuality. Rather, their role is to counsel, command, instruct, and discipline young people. Evidence shows that, when communicated effectively in a way that makes young people comfortable, a parent’s input and involvement has a significant impact on a young person’s behavior, and can become more influential than powerful voices such as social media and the internet. Speaking to pastoral and professional counselors, coaches, church leaders, and others working in the field of young adult and family mental health, Dr. Gilbert urged them, “Be a wise voice in this conversation; don’t be silent.”
Dr. Gilbert hosts a blog and online resource called “Healing Lives,” whose mission is “to provide church leaders, young adults, moms, and dads with practical tools, teaching, resources, and guidance on matters of a biblical sexual ethic for their churches, families, and lives.”
Welcome! My name is Corey Gilbert. I am a husband, father, professor, counselor, and speaker. I have the honor of speaking on current topics at churches and leading marriage and dating seminars. I also enjoy my classroom time teaching undergraduates at Corban University (www.corban.edu) in Salem, Oregon in courses such as Human Sexuality, Trauma Therapy, Counseling Skills, Psychology of Addiction, Abnormal Psychology, etc. I have also spent the past 17 years in the trenches with clients in my private practice as a Licensed Professional Counselor – what an honor to has been to steward other’s stories and pain in very dark and difficult times.
I am currently developing a place for church leaders, parents, and single adults to come for Resources and Guidance on a Biblical Sexual Ethic. I will provide services, consulting, counseling, teaching, and trainings on age appropriate approaches to leading your family with excellence in areas of sexuality, technology and teens (and children), and addressing sexual issues tactfully, practically, and proactively.
We must be intentional in addressing tough issues early with our children. Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat, pornography, dating, marriage, sex, family roles and values are critical topics we must not leave to other to teach our children.
May we as the church lead the way in freeing ourselves and our children’s futures from the pain and despair of sexual brokenness. We need safe people, not safe spaces. May we create small communities of families that love well, talk openly, hurt in community, and heal as a community. God is working and active. Join us in this mission.
My PERSONAL PURPOSE STATEMENT:
To provide church leaders, young adults, moms, and dads with practical tools, teaching, resources and guidance on matters of a biblical sexual ethic for their churches, families, and lives.
To help churches, young adults, and parents build strong families and openly address difficult topics biblically.
To help churches, young adults, and parents change their futures by proactively learning about and addressing a biblical sexual ethic.
Looking forward to ways I can partner with you and your church / family,