Be Aware of What you are Giving Your Children for Christmas!

It is almost Christmas.  Families are excited.  A fast, but different pace ensues.  Children are crazy excited. I have a word of caution for us parents.  I have seen too much as a therapist and parent and with friends families.  One of the top gifts given this season to younger and younger children are electronic devices like iPads, iPhones, iPod Touches and the like.  Be Aware!  I personally call these “Porn Portals.”  Not to be funny – rather to enlighten and slightly alarm.  They are two to three clicks away from that stuff at any given moment – and we cannot watch them at all times.  FYI:

  • Most children have seen pornography – let’s not make it easier for them.
  • Most children and teens today spend hours on YouTube – and this is not an innocent space.
  • Snapchat and Instagram are not harmless and contain questionable material they can easily find.
  • Cyberbullying is getting worse with this instant access – leading to suicides.
  • Did you know that Universities are checking applicants social media accounts before admission – what are they posting?

This reminder is meant to alarm – not for us to overreact – rather for us to set limits, remain the parents, and teach our children and teenagers responsibility.

Our children will almost certainly want these devices.  We choose when – use wisdom.

They will almost never come to YOU with questions – so it is OUR responsibility to engage them in difficult and even uncomfortable short (very short) conversations.  We must initiate these.  DO NOT expect them to (if they do you are blessed!  Most do not).

Have a Merry Christmas.  Lead your families with Confidence.

Dr. Gilbert

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Life-Changing Decisions – is Counseling for me?

You are stuck.  You feel afraid.  You are unsure.  You need motivation.  You need help with specific questions you have in life.

Your marriage is stuck.  You are afraid for your son or daughter’s future.  You find yourself unmotivated to do what you know you need to do.  I can help!

My model of working with clients has been shaped over the past 17 years of counseling and working with couples and families and single adults facing life crisis, as well as working as a University Professor.

My goal is to be brief, and empower you in your life.  We start off with more hours up front and more frequent.  My goal is to get us down to 1 or 2 – 30 minute coaching sessions a month as check-in’s.  I want to see our time together be short and to the point.  Your success in life, love, family, work, and even growing yourself is critical to your future.  Get unstuck.  Reduce your fears.  Become confident.  Increase your motivation.  Get answers to hard questions.     

You will find the financial side of this is stacked up front and is quickly relieved – as opposed to months and even years of weekly 50 minute sessions.

Check out www.HealingLives.com for more information.

Groups on specific topics are coming soon.

Online courses are in the works.

I am excited about what’s to come from HealingLives, LLC.

 

Please Distribute this Survey for Parents from Dr. Gilbert

Hi there mom or dad.  I want to ask you for some feedback.  Answer any of the following questions if you are willing so that I may better serve those like you that are in that stage of life of raising children/preteens/teens.  Thank you in advance for your input and vulnerability.  I am honored. Follow me at HealingLives.com – more resources will be available soon.

Click here for Survey: https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/5KQPXBS

Thanks for your responses.  I am looking forward to working with your answers and addressing these topics very soon.

Respectfully,

Dr. Gilbert

Heart of Man MOVIE Event (Tuesday Oct 17th, 2017)

Come out and see the “The Heart of Man” Movie Documentary.

“Our Brokenness is a Bridge, Not a Barrier”

Come early and hear interviews prior to the movie.  Stay after and hear an amazing discussion about the movie, it’s heart and it’s impact!

https://www.fathomevents.com/events/

Watch the Trailer and Read more here

Buy Tickets here (or just show up)

YouTube – Official Trailer

Join me and my sons at SANTIAM 11
365 Lancaster Drive SE Salem OR 97317

Starts at 7pm – come early though!

Dr G

The Decline of Play & Increase in Mental Health Concerns

https://medium.com/the-mission/the-decline-of-play-and-rise-in-childrens-mental-disorders-7cc348ee8529

We ought not be surprised.  But, we MUST do something about it though.  Our children need us to be stronger than technology and media and the culture and lead them well.  What does this look like?

  • Get them playing.
  • Let then handle the disagreements without our immediate intervention.
  • Get them outside.
  • Decrease media usage and teach them the “why.”
  • Model play for them (we might need to loosen up).
  • Create space in and outside of our home for play.
  • Empower children at all ages to set goals and achieve wins (and experience losses).

Encourage children to be WHOLE people – physical health, spiritual depth, emotional stability, a strong work ethic, and community.

Dr. G

Please Distribute this Survey for Parents from Dr. Gilbert

Hi there mom or dad.  I want to ask you for some feedback.  Answer any of the following questions if you are willing so that I may better serve those like you that are in that stage of life of raising children/preteens/teens.  Thank you in advance for your input and vulnerability.  I am honored. Follow me at HealingLives.com – more resources will be available soon.

Click here for Survey: https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/5KQPXBS

Thanks for your responses.  I am looking forward to working with your answers and addressing these topics very soon.

Respectfully,

Dr. Gilbert

The Future with After-Birth Abortion as Normal

http://www.slate.com/articles/health_and_science/human_nature/2012/03/after_birth_abortion_the_pro_choice_case_for_infanticide_.html

And it continues.  Where does this lead us?  It leads us to a reality where a child can be killed if it is not the desired gender, if it does not fit into plans, or if something is deemed wrong.  What is next?  Check out these points in this article:

Assumptions:

  1. Morality is Arbitrary
  2. Personhood
  3. Burden Outweighs Value
  4. Value of Life
  5. Defects = Termination

Dr. Gilbert