Friends – help me with some Great Reviews (if you can and it deserves them)

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We are live on Amazon. Woohoo!!!!!!!!!

I’d honored for you to download the Kindle version for .99 cents and review a chapter or two (ASAP if possible).

What I really want is to be able to come to your church or work with your family to help you achieve generational change. If this book is a help, check out the workbook that walks you through building a Biblical Sexual Ethic. This is CRUCIAL for success.

Also, for a cheaper way to get them both go to Icantsaythat.com – Thank you in advance for your reviews. This is greatly appreciated. 

Sincerely, 

The Gilbert Family

www.HealingLives.com

Friends – help me with some Great Reviews (if you can and it deserves them)

We are live on Amazon.

Download the Kindle version for .99 cents and review a chapter or two.

This will help me tremendously in increasing it’s visibility. (I am also available to come to your church – I’d be honored). If you like it – the book and workbook are now for sale on Amazon. Also, for a cheaper way to get them both plus the audiobook go to Icantsaythat.com – Thank you in advance for your reviews. This is greatly appreciated.

Sincerely,

The Gilbert Family

www.HealingLives.com

Tomorrow April 9th my Paperback Book will be Available on Amazon! – I Can’t Say That!

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Dr. Corey Gilbert is proud ot announce his new book (and workbook) for families and parents entitled, “I Can’t Say That! Going Beyond ‘The Talk’: Equipping Your Children to Make Choices About Sexuality and Gender From a Biblical Sexual Ethic.”  

Learn about and solidify your beliefs on tough subjects. These issues are the tip of the iceberg when it comes to what our children are being forced to navigate at increasingly younger ages. As a parent, are you leading your family in conversations, so that your voice is the first one they hear on these sensitive issues? Do you know what the Bible says – and doesn’t say – on the issues surrounding sexuality and gender? Do your children know what you believe and why you believe it?

You are not alone if you feel as though you don’t know how and when to have these conversations. Many parents worry about having “The Talk” with their children because they are concerned about bringing it up too early, they are uncomfortable talking about sex, or they feel unprepared to answer questions that their child might ask. In “I Can’t Say That!,” Dr. Gilbert walks parents through age-appropriate conversations and teaches parents how to create a culture of conversation through micro-conversations.

Be the leader for your family that you have always wanted to be – giving your children a solid biblical sexual ethic.

In his roles as a counselor and professor, Dr. Gilbert has heard repeatedly from young adults that they never had conversations about the complicated issues surrounding sexuality with their parents and they wish that they had. His motivation in “I Can’t Say That!” is to equip parents with the information they need so that THEY can in turn equip their children to make choices from a biblical sexual ethic.

Dr. Gilbert is a dad to 3, husband, University Professor, Speaker, Licensed Professional Counselor, Executive, Marriage, and Family Life Coach and Author. He loves to serve face to face or online helping couples and families build a biblical sexual ethic, grow beyond an affair, find freedom from bad habits and addictions, and grow strong marriages and families. He is the Founder and Owner of HealingLives, LLC. Book him to speak or hire him at HealingLives.com or drcoreygilbert.com

A NEW Book for Parents on a Biblical Sexual Ethic for YOU and Your Kids – Download for FREE April 1st

Dr. Corey Gilbert is proud ot announce his new book (and workbook) for families and parents entitled, “I Can’t Say That! Going Beyond ‘The Talk’: Equipping Your Children to Make Choices About Sexuality and Gender From a Biblical Sexual Ethic.”  

Learn about and solidify your beliefs on Gender Identity, Pornography, Hook-up culture, Same-Sex Attraction, Masturbation, and Abuse. These issues are the tip of the iceberg when it comes to what our children are being forced to navigate at increasingly younger ages. As a parent, are you leading your family in conversations, so that your voice is the first one they hear on these sensitive issues? Do you know what the Bible says – and doesn’t say – on the issues surrounding sexuality and gender? Do your children know what you believe and why you believe it?

You are not alone if you feel as though you don’t know how and when to have these conversations. Many parents worry about having “The Talk” with their children because they are concerned about bringing it up too early, they are uncomfortable talking about sex, or they feel unprepared to answer questions that their child might ask. In “I Can’t Say That!,” Dr. Gilbert walks parents through age-appropriate conversations and teaches parents how to create a culture of conversation through micro-conversations.

Be the leader for your family that you have always wanted to be – giving your children a solid biblical sexual ethic.

In his roles as a counselor and professor, Dr. Gilbert has heard repeatedly from young adults that they never had conversations about the complicated issues surrounding sexuality with their parents and they wish that they had. His motivation in “I Can’t Say That!” is to equip parents with the information they need so that THEY can in turn equip their children to make choices from a biblical sexual ethic.

Dr. Gilbert is a dad to 3, husband, University Professor, Speaker, Licensed Professional Counselor, Executive, Marriage, and Family Life Coach and Author. He loves to serve face to face or online helping couples and families build a biblical sexual ethic, grow beyond an affair, find freedom from bad habits and addictions, and grow strong marriages and families. He is the Founder and Owner of HealingLives, LLC. Book him to speak or hire him at HealingLives.com or drcoreygilbert.com

Happy Thanksgiving from HealingLives – Dr Gilbert

Happy Thanksgiving from the Gilbert family!  Blessings to you.  So much happening here.  I am so excited about the coming together of my new book and workbook, membership site, online courses, counseling services, and coaching services.   

The book editing is complete.  It is at the typesetting stage (pending a title and securing the book cover – plus a few endorsements). We are SO CLOSE!  I am so excited and truly hope it changes lives.  

Along with this book and workbook I have been working on online resources that will be available soon.  I have classes, trainings, and more coming soon.  

Also available – counseling and coaching services that can meet your needs.  I work with families, parenting issues, couples and marriage related struggles, ministry leaders that are facing burnout or need help with skills to serve more intentionally as a people helper, and specific topics such as affairs, sexual issues, abuse, and trauma.

Need a speaker for a men’s or women’s retreat?  Looking for a workshop on parenting, porn, homeschooling, dating and relationships, marriage, sexuality and/or trauma – check out drcoreygilbert.com  

Bless you and yours on this Thanksgiving Day!  

Preorder my book for free and just pay for shipping at freebook.healinglives.com

Check out my Online Course on “Love, Sex, Dating, & Marriage” – a 7 hour course with worksheets at dating.healinglives.com 

Find out more about my services at HealingLives.com

Truly enjoy this CHRISTmas season with friends and family.

I am here to serve.

Dr Gilbert (& Family, Salem, Oregon)

 

 

Parents – Membership – Micro-Conversations

Short and sweet – the concept of “The Talk” is not helpful. In all my years of research and teaching I have found a theme among 20-somethings – that for those that their parents had “the talk” – it was way too late. For some they were teaching their parents about stuff during these “talks.”

So – what I propose are micro-conversations. We begin planting seeds intentionally from birth in the areas we want our children to grow a solid belief system. This goes for all topics, manners, beliefs, and ethics. So – with what I do – may we learn to invest in our children’s sexual ethic.

I have a membership site built for you as a parent that I am launching aimed to give teaching and training for parents on a biblical sexual ethic. In my new membership site you will be empowered to have micro-conversations with your 1 and 2 year old that are age appropriate and prepares them for the micro-conversations you have with them at ages 3-6. These prepare them for those micro-conversations you will intentionally have with them from ages 7-10. As they grow we are meant to prepare them.

What I find in my counseling and research is that the main source of knowledge and learning for most of our Christian children are from porn, the internet, and friends – scary sources. Another big finding is that many 20-something year olds wish their parents had been a safe place to have these hard conversations.

Prepare. Lead. Be Confident. Know your own personal theology. Pass that along intentionally and strategically to your children so that they can make wise informed decisions and live from a solid ETHOS – a biblical sexual ethic.      

Check out more information at http://membership.healinglives.com

Counseling and coaching options available at http://www.HealingLives.com  

Your Children’s Beliefs are Established Earlier than You Think!

Parents of babies through age 10. THIS IS FOR YOU! Parents of children ages 11+ be aware. You are building into your children each and every day a worldview, an ETHOS about the world, those different than you, grace, war, politics, church, and sexuality. Have you thought through what guidelines you want for your children in their teenage years relating to dating, sex, birth control, and even friendships? Let me tell you a secret – those conversations are TOO LATE if you begin “going there” when they are ages 11+. You have already left your imprint, whether it was intentional or not. SO – the prescription – go there early. Teach them well, intentionally, and hopefully from a strong, healthy sexual ethic that you have decided upon and are eager to teach them and lead them towards as they make it theirs.

If you want help developing your ETHOS surrounding sexuality, gender, dating, marriage, and relationships – check out my new book coming out soon, the workbook, discounted coaching options, and even a very low cost membership site where we ill have discussions on hard topics and help teach you and lead you to have those hard conversations and lead your family with confidence. Your ETHOS matters. Their ETHOS is established earlier than you think. GO THERE!!!!  Lead from the front. I would be honored to help you succeed. Check out my free book at http://freebook.healinglives.com    

Honored to serve, 

Corey Gilbert, PhD, LPC

Founder and Owner, HealingLives, LLC

http://www.HealingLives.com

Homeschooling and S-e-x Ed

A few weekends ago I had the amazing honor to speak at the OCEAN Network Homeschool Conference held in Albany, Oregon.  I did 3 breakout sessions that were jammed packed.  The topic? I had three.  

The first was “Sex, Porn, and Your Kids: Age Appropriate Conversations.”  

The second covered tech – “Leading Your Family in a Teched-Out World.”  

And the final topic was “Developing and Teaching Your Family a Biblical Sexual Ethic.”

Wow what a weekend. What a turn out.  And what a need.  I had so many amazing – and also heartbreaking conversations.  The need for healthy discussion and help in these areas is obvious. Know that you were never meant to navigate this alone. I want to come alongside you and help you prepare your family for what’s to come. So a few tips:

  • Be proactive – lead the conversations – I would say it is all about the micro-conversations that build as they grow. Make these often and short. 
  • Learn an biblical human sexuality, theory of marriage, dating, etc. Know what you believe. 
  • Do not avoid tech and see it as evil – It is not. Teach healthy usage and that these are tools – tools to be managed and used appropriately. Remember that this is about their hearts and their own inner compass of right and wrong. You want to captivate their hearts for any kind of transformation.
  • Remember that it is OUR responsibility as parents to be early (not late) to the conversations about pornography and and an ethic on dating, and ther hard and hot topics our children are facing today. Be ahead of the curve – not late.
  • If you don’t teach them, someone else WILL (and probably already has). Train them to be discerning regarding good and appropriate versus bad and grooming touch.
  • Invest in yourself as the parent so that you KNOW your ETHOS and can lead with confidence.
  • Do not do this alone. Find a community for support – face-to-face or virtual, either way – grab on to a community and be teachable. Be sure that what you are teaching is also biblical.

I hope these tips are helpful. You can find more of this in my upcoming book (working on it now) and my membership site for parents at http://www.buildyourethos.com 

Sign up for more information at http://www.drcorey.org 

For me to come speak to your church or homeschool or school group contact me and find out more at http://www.drcoreygilbert.com               

For Counseling and Executive, Marriage, and Family Life Coaching request more information at http://www.HealingLives.com

It is an honor to serve,

Dr. G

Corey Gilbert, PhD, LPC

Owner and Founder of HealingLives, LLC 

Parents – Your Children Need your Preemptive Guidance

Parents.  You may have heard of a movie in theaters title “Show Dogs” (2018).  This is about that and not about that.  My worry and concern is that many movies like this have subtle hints and lessons that – if not caught – teach our children things that can put them in harms way.  So this is a reminder to us parents to be vigilant.

Movies like “Deadpool 1 & 2” are reaching for our children and have trailers that draw them in – VERY successfully – and we must be the bad guys and say “NO!”  Movies like the first one mentioned are PG and easily fly under the radar and thus we have on conversations with our children about what they contain.

I am not advocating boycotting everything or banning anything. I do not see this as effective and early see it work at all.  It is about the short conversations about pieces of movies and shows and conversations our children hear that will empower them to stand up for themselves and NOT become a victim.  May we lead with confidence. May we prepare our children to spot things that are not just way off, but that are even subtly off.  May we teach them an ETHOS that they can become invested and grounded in – and is theirs.  Their ETHOS matters.  And this begins with ours as parents.

For more information and resources – check out my free facebook group we I am adding content and building community for parents that want to do this well – https://www.facebook.com/groups/familycounsel/

Dr G.

Corey Gilbert, PhD, LPC
Founder & CEO of HealingLives, LLC
Executive & Family Life Coaching, Counseling, Speaking, & Membership Site Owner
www.HealingLives.com
www.buildyourethos.com
www.drcorey.org/free

5 Things Parents of PREteens MUST Do

Are you a parents of a preteen and wondering what the next stages in life are going to look like?  Let me give you a hint – way too much of it depends on you – as the parent.  

Here are some steps to make the teen years an amazing time of growth and adventure and maturity – and not the typical chaos so many experience:

  1. Date your son or daughter
    Go to the movies, on a walk, out to dinner, a hike, picnic, paint balling, golfing, a bike ride, etc.  
  2. Change your discipline techniques (they are older now and need more age appropriate consequences)
    They are not 7 anymore.  Adapt your approach, which often means more intentionally severe consequences – it must hurt sometimes (not physically) for them to learn.  Remember you are leading them towards adulthood.
  3. Go on a retreat with your preteen and complete the Passport to Purity with them
    This is a 3 day 2 night outing with steps to follow, audio to listen to – and the audio by Dennis and Barbara Rainey does the teaching, and activities to complete and adventures to be had.  My eldest son and I went to the coast and went golfing and stayed in an RV.  My middle son and I went to a place up in the mountains that had zip lines and a climbing wall and tomahawk throwing and we stayed in a tent.  These are great memory makers as well.  
  4. Give them freedoms that allow them to test the world (within reason)
    Let them take risks.  We have watched our preteen son take the bus around town.  My wife at times has followed the bus to watch from afar.  Eventually you let go and must trust them.  These small victories are life changing for a growing maturing young man or woman. 
  5. NO allowances – Commissions – teach them the value of work and pay (and tithing and saving)
    As Dave Ramsey says – let them earn it.  They must learn that you are not their money tree.  A valuable statement I learned years ago was to NOT say “we can’t afford it” – rather to say “We choose to NOT spend our money that way.” – this is freeing.  
  6. Go on adventures with them (as a family or just you and your preteen)
    Get outside.  Go as a family.  Camping!  We love to go snowshoeing, skiing, sledding, to the coast, bike riding as a family, kayaking, or float down a river in inner-tubes, and out favorite – cross country road trips tent camping across the US.   

I hope these ideas are helpful.  Also – do some of these things with other families that have kids the same age.  

Be proactive and intentional as you lead this young man or woman into and through adolescence and into adulthood.  I hope even the hardest times of this stage of life are better because of your implementing the above strategies.  Lead well. Lead intentionally. 

Dr. Gilbert