Friends – help me with some Great Reviews (if you can and it deserves them)

We are live on Amazon. Woohoo!!!!!!!!!

I’d honored for you to download the Kindle version for .99 cents and review a chapter or two (ASAP if possible).

What I really want is to be able to come to your church or work with your family to help you achieve generational change. If this book is a help, check out the workbook that walks you through building a Biblical Sexual Ethic. This is CRUCIAL for success.

Also, for a cheaper way to get them both go to – Thank you in advance for your reviews. This is greatly appreciated. 


The Gilbert Family

Happy Thanksgiving from HealingLives – Dr Gilbert

Happy Thanksgiving from the Gilbert family!  Blessings to you.  So much happening here.  I am so excited about the coming together of my new book and workbook, membership site, online courses, counseling services, and coaching services.   

The book editing is complete.  It is at the typesetting stage (pending a title and securing the book cover – plus a few endorsements). We are SO CLOSE!  I am so excited and truly hope it changes lives.  

Along with this book and workbook I have been working on online resources that will be available soon.  I have classes, trainings, and more coming soon.  

Also available – counseling and coaching services that can meet your needs.  I work with families, parenting issues, couples and marriage related struggles, ministry leaders that are facing burnout or need help with skills to serve more intentionally as a people helper, and specific topics such as affairs, sexual issues, abuse, and trauma.

Need a speaker for a men’s or women’s retreat?  Looking for a workshop on parenting, porn, homeschooling, dating and relationships, marriage, sexuality and/or trauma – check out  

Bless you and yours on this Thanksgiving Day!  

Preorder my book for free and just pay for shipping at

Check out my Online Course on “Love, Sex, Dating, & Marriage” – a 7 hour course with worksheets at 

Find out more about my services at

Truly enjoy this CHRISTmas season with friends and family.

I am here to serve.

Dr Gilbert (& Family, Salem, Oregon)



Homeschooling and S-e-x Ed

A few weekends ago I had the amazing honor to speak at the OCEAN Network Homeschool Conference held in Albany, Oregon.  I did 3 breakout sessions that were jammed packed.  The topic? I had three.  

The first was “Sex, Porn, and Your Kids: Age Appropriate Conversations.”  

The second covered tech – “Leading Your Family in a Teched-Out World.”  

And the final topic was “Developing and Teaching Your Family a Biblical Sexual Ethic.”

Wow what a weekend. What a turn out.  And what a need.  I had so many amazing – and also heartbreaking conversations.  The need for healthy discussion and help in these areas is obvious. Know that you were never meant to navigate this alone. I want to come alongside you and help you prepare your family for what’s to come. So a few tips:

  • Be proactive – lead the conversations – I would say it is all about the micro-conversations that build as they grow. Make these often and short. 
  • Learn an biblical human sexuality, theory of marriage, dating, etc. Know what you believe. 
  • Do not avoid tech and see it as evil – It is not. Teach healthy usage and that these are tools – tools to be managed and used appropriately. Remember that this is about their hearts and their own inner compass of right and wrong. You want to captivate their hearts for any kind of transformation.
  • Remember that it is OUR responsibility as parents to be early (not late) to the conversations about pornography and and an ethic on dating, and ther hard and hot topics our children are facing today. Be ahead of the curve – not late.
  • If you don’t teach them, someone else WILL (and probably already has). Train them to be discerning regarding good and appropriate versus bad and grooming touch.
  • Invest in yourself as the parent so that you KNOW your ETHOS and can lead with confidence.
  • Do not do this alone. Find a community for support – face-to-face or virtual, either way – grab on to a community and be teachable. Be sure that what you are teaching is also biblical.

I hope these tips are helpful. You can find more of this in my upcoming book (working on it now) and my membership site for parents at 

Sign up for more information at 

For me to come speak to your church or homeschool or school group contact me and find out more at               

For Counseling and Executive, Marriage, and Family Life Coaching request more information at

It is an honor to serve,

Dr. G

Corey Gilbert, PhD, LPC

Owner and Founder of HealingLives, LLC 

Must-Have Resource for Parents of Young Kids

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Survey for Ministry Leaders (please share)

I am seeking your participation as a ministry leader in a brief survey.  I know that a large portion of your time is spent counseling, whether you are in a full-time, part-time, or lay leader position.  I would like to get feedback from your experiences in this area.  Your responses to this survey will help me evaluate what might be effective tools that would be an asset to you as your work with individuals and families.

The survey is very brief and should only take about five minutes to complete.  Your responses to this survey will be kept completely confidential.

Thank you very much for your time and cooperation.  Your feedback will be very helpful.


Corey J. Gilbert, PhD, LPC

Licensed Professional Counselor, HealingLives, LLC
Associate Professor of Psychology, Corban University
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Heart of Man MOVIE Event (Tuesday Oct 17th, 2017)

Come out and see the “The Heart of Man” Movie Documentary.

“Our Brokenness is a Bridge, Not a Barrier”

Come early and hear interviews prior to the movie.  Stay after and hear an amazing discussion about the movie, it’s heart and it’s impact!

Watch the Trailer and Read more here

Buy Tickets here (or just show up)

YouTube – Official Trailer

Join me and my sons at SANTIAM 11
365 Lancaster Drive SE Salem OR 97317

Starts at 7pm – come early though!

Dr G

Learn about my Presentation at the American Association of Christian Counselors (AACC) World Conference in this Article on Corban University’s Website

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What Corban professors have been up to: Part 3, Dr. Corey Gilbert

Thursday, 5 October 2017
Dr. Corey Gilbert, Associate Professor of Psychology at Corban University, might not have much in common with Salt-N-Pepa, the American hip-hop trio, but he would heartily agree with them on at least one point: “Let’s talk about sex.” Just last month, Dr. Gilbert presented at the American Association of Christian Counselors (AACC) World Conference in Nashville, Tennessee. His topic? “Sex and the Millennial: Transformative Conversations that Integrate Research and Theology.”

How did Dr. Gilbert come to present at the AACC conference?

Dr. Gilbert had attended the AACC World Conference for years—since he was a grad student in the 90s, in fact. But he hadn’t actually presented until now. “I had wanted to do this for years, but it is amazing the power of FEAR,” he writes in his blog. But this year he had finally submitted a handful of proposals related to the conference’s annual theme, “Break Every Chain.” Not only was his proposal on “Sex and the Millennial” accepted, but it received a great deal of interest leading up to the conference and was one of the few breakout sessions labeled full on the registration page. Indeed, Dr. Gilbert ended up speaking to a packed house of about 160.

Why “Sex and the Millennial?” What’s critical about this age group and conversations about sex?  

Dr. Gilbert has witnessed first-hand the attitudes Christian millennials have toward sex, both through his career as a Licensed Professional Counselor and as Associate Professor of Psychology at Corban University, where he teaches courses such as Human Sexuality, Trauma Therapy, Counseling Skills, Psychology of Addiction, and Abnormal Psychology. Although the topics he discusses with his students in these courses are often uncomfortable ones, Dr. Gilbert is adamant that being open about difficult topics, especially under the guidance of godly mentors, is crucial to young people’s development.

And indeed, “Millennials want and need to talk about sex,” Dr. Gilbert explains in a summary of his presentation. “How they think about sex impacts them spiritually, behaviorally, relationally, emotionally, and neurologically. The decisions they make during the critical young adult years (ages 18-28) impact them for decades.”

The problem lies in where millennials are receiving their information about this topic. Although each generation has struggled with harmful attitudes toward sex, millennials have access to portals of information that earlier generations did not, including the internet and social media. Too often, young people turn to sources of information that are inaccurate or even harmful (e.g. social media and friends), instead of biblically-grounded sources.

Where does “Research” enter the discussion? What kind of research did Dr. Gilbert conduct?

For more than a decade, Dr. Gilbert has been collecting data. Both in his Human Sexuality course at Corban and in an equivalent course he’s taught for another private Christian university, Dr. Gilbert has administered a survey to his students at the beginning of each semester. The survey asks students to honestly and anonymously answer questions about their attitude toward sex, where they’ve learned about sex, their comfort level talking to their parents about sex, and other related questions.

For years, the data had been piling up, unused. “Two years ago,” says Dr. Gilbert, “a colleague of mine pushed me to do something with it.” Dr. Gilbert asked one of his student assistants, Danielle Horne, to begin compiling the data from the surveys. Danielle began to analyze some of the data and ended up presenting her findings at the National Conference on Undergraduate Research in April of 2016. Her presentation was titled “Safe Sex: A Study on the Influences on Sexual Decision-Making.” She concluded that a young person’s comfort-level talking with their parents about sex had an impact on whether or not they would make safe decisions. The higher the comfort level, the more likely they would turn to their parents to talk about sex, and the less risky their behavior would be. “It is the parent’s job to create an environment in the home where their children feel comfortable talking about sex,” Danielle concluded. The idea of parental responsibility became a key point in Dr. Gilbert’s presentation.

What about “Theology”? What role did Scripture play in this discussion? 

Dr. Gilbert’s discussion on parental involvement dovetailed with an analysis of Proverbs 6:20-23:

My son, obey your father’s commands,
and don’t neglect your mother’s instruction.

Keep their words always in your heart.
Tie them around your neck.

When you walk, their counsel will lead you.
When you sleep, they will protect you.
When you wake up, they will advise you.

For their command is a lamp and their instruction a light;
their corrective discipline is the way to life.

He pointed out that this passage, in the context of warning young people away from sexual immorality, underlines the importance of parents in a young person’s decisions about sex—similar to Danielle’s conclusions. He points out that parents’ counsel, commands, instruction, and discipline come together to protect their children from unhealthy decisions regarding sex.

So… What’s the takeaway?

Both research and Scripture point to the importance of wise adults speaking into young people’s lives. Ultimately, Dr. Gilbert points out that parents, church leaders, and other Christian adults can’t afford to be silent on the topic of sexuality. Rather, their role is to counsel, command, instruct, and discipline young people. Evidence shows that, when communicated effectively in a way that makes young people comfortable, a parent’s input and involvement has a significant impact on a young person’s behavior, and can become more influential than powerful voices such as social media and the internet. Speaking to pastoral and professional counselors, coaches, church leaders, and others working in the field of young adult and family mental health, Dr. Gilbert urged them, “Be a wise voice in this conversation; don’t be silent.”

Dr. Gilbert hosts a blog and online resource called “Healing Lives,” whose mission is “to provide church leaders, young adults, moms, and dads with practical tools, teaching, resources, and guidance on matters of a biblical sexual ethic for their churches, families, and lives.”

Please Distribute this Survey for Parents from Dr. Gilbert

Hi there mom or dad.  I want to ask you for some feedback.  Answer any of the following questions if you are willing so that I may better serve those like you that are in that stage of life of raising children/preteens/teens.  Thank you in advance for your input and vulnerability.  I am honored. Follow me at – more resources will be available soon.

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Thanks for your responses.  I am looking forward to working with your answers and addressing these topics very soon.


Dr. Gilbert