Your Heart on Thanksgiving

How do you respond to things that don’t work, don’t go your way, or fall apart in your life?  Are you thankful even in the storm?  I tend to not be.  I am in process.  You are in process.  May we find common ground with a heart grounded in gratitude.  In the pain… are you grateful?  In the darkness… are you grateful?  When you are lost… are you grateful?  God is at work in these places.  He has a plan.  Living with a heart of gratitude changes you – and changes those around you.  May you find this space in your life.  May you find this in your marriage, relationships, parenting, friendships, family, and life.  May you live thankful.  Thankful in the battle with your child or teen.  Thankful in the hard times with your spouse and/or coworkers.  You are in process.  They are in process.  God is at work.  Be willing to rest in that.  Steven Curtis Chapman sings a song that is so powerful that reminds me of what I need – “Be still and know that He is God.”  Amen!

Psalms 46:10 (NLT) says, “Be still, and know that I am God! I will be honored by every nation. I will be honored throughout the world.”

Rest in Him.  Live in a space of Thanksgiving.

Happy Thanksgiving from HealingLives, LLC – Dr. Corey Gilbert.

“Are you there for me?” Emotion Focused Therapy Insights

Today I presented the backbones of Emotion Focused Therapy to my Family Systems class at Corban University.  I was struck by a few things.  The key question is “Are you there for me?”
What a powerful question.  We each ask this question a lot – whether out loud or deep inside our souls.  A few additional questions come to mind – Are you safe?  Is my sharing of myself (thoughts, dreams, ideas, struggles, feelings, etc) going to be heard and received and managed with care – or criticized or even condemned?

I hope and pray for each of my students – that they will find that spark in them – yes it can even be known as a calling – to go change the world in powerful and even innovative way.  A key to this success will be – and really MUST be – community – finding those safe people to confide in, do life with, and consult with.  

I am in awe of so many of my former students and how they are doing just that.  They have found their role or job or position or mission that has meaning, adds value to others, and makes a difference.  Some are on the mission field.  Some are stay-at-home moms investing in the next generation.  Many are pastors and leaders in their field.  Others have found jobs that provide and they purposefully invest in and make an impact in the lives of those in their community.  This is beautiful.  This is success.  I am so proud.  

So – what to do?  Dream big.  Be bold.  Take risks.  Change the world for Jesus Christ.  “Are you there for me?”  Jesus is!  And He intentionally brings those into our lives – your life and my life – to be the hands and feet of Jesus.  Look for these people.  Be that person!  Invest purposefully.     

Dr. G